Sunday is Father’s Day and every year at this time numbers come out telling us what it costs to raise a child in today’s world. The latest number I have seen was $300,000 from birth to age 18. I have two daughters over 18 so conservatively I would say my wife and I have spent at least a half a million dollars over those growing years. We have friends that opted out of the kid thing and decided to stay childless during their marriages. Some have two homes now and new cars along with great stories about vacations to exotic places I will never see….I will admit at times I am jealous……but….
If I had to do it all over I would still pick the child option. Yes there are times that you wanted to ring their necks (figure of speech, don’t take it literally DCFS) but the overall experience has been positive. From the diapers to the late night/early morning arrivals back home from parties,the experience has taught me so much more than I ever imagined. I have gained patience I thought I never had and learned to listen to more than the words being spoken. I’ve come to understand that when a child says “I hate you!” or ” I wish I was never born!” what they are really saying is “I’m scared and I just need you to make me feel safe!”
Raising children has never been an easy process and it takes more than just potty training and teaching them how to walk to say you have accomplished your goal. But whatever effort you put into it your return is so much greater! I’ve learned as much from them as they have from me.
When I see them now not only do I see the beautiful women they have become I also see what they were at the different stages of their lives. I see the first steps they took, the school uniforms they wore in grade school, the basketball uniforms, and the cheer leading outfits as well. Its been a great trip which feels today like it took so little time!
So yes, it is an expensive undertaking to raise children but its also an investment that continues to return dividends continually.
To my fellow Fathers out there, enjoy your day on Sunday and enjoy your kids everyday……..


